So someone pissed you off.
Like REALLY pissed you off.
You are fuming and you just can’t seem to settle yourself or stop thinking about what they did/say/lied about..whatever the case may be.
So where do you go from here?
Welcome to the 72-hour rule.
Tried and tested by Drake Mom (Ya- that Drake…).
Yes, 3 days.
3 days to make things happen.
3 days to relax and move on.
3 days to decide you can’t forgive what happened.
3 days to see if you mean something to someone.
3 days to realize how much you actually care about someone
3 days to REALLY miss someone.
3 days to decide what is worth your time and what isn’t.
According to the internet experts, we make about 35,000 subconscious decisions every day. Each decision we make has some kind of impact on our lives (every action has a reaction, right…) so it is probably best that we don’t make any decisions or choices out of anger.
When something angers you or hurts you or upsets you, you immediately want to react (or in some cases retaliate!). However, the majority of times we react out of negative feelings, we regret our choices or our words. Giving yourself 72 to do ANYTHING will ensure that you are doing it because it’s the right thing to do and not just because you want your ex to feel the same way you are feeling.
It breaks down every upsetting situation into four very simple principles.
If it doesn’t matter in 3 days, it doesn’t matter now.
If you don’t want to take action 72 hours later, it’s time to forget and move on.
If they hurt you and haven’t check on you in 72 hours- they need to go.
If you still feel the need to act or speak after 72 hours – do it, it’s important.
You see, 72 hours give you time for perspective. It allows you to feel your emotions, and make an educated decision on how you are going to move forward once you have allowed yourself time to calm down.
I have always been a defensive person.
Before you have even finished that sentence I don’t like, I have a rebuttal ready for you
in my head … but last year I changed- A LOT. I started to implement this rule every damn time I felt like I had been wronged. It has relaxed me, given me a deadline to process my emotions, and eliminated the need to react in the moment (this is a big one). It also allowed me to see that sometimes the fact of the matter is, this person who hurt me doesn’t care what I feel at all (or worse- they enjoy getting a reaction out of me!).
A lot can change in 72 hours.
Give yourself that time to decide what (and who) is worth it.